Clear Cognizance – Living Along Versus Not Living Alone

Living Alone
Living Alone

So I had what I am calling a Clear Cognizant stream this morning. They tend to hit me at random times. 🙂 Is it true for everyone? Probably not. Is it true for me Right now? Yes. Just a sharing, all beliefs are true to the believer. And the idea was as follows:

That people can or will soon start to notice that single people, those of us who live by ourselves, are a lot happier, in general overall, than people who live as a couple. Yes a complete flip flop and upside down version of what we have all experienced in the past.

And the idea is that a single person is living more AS their true self; their whole and complete self. Whereas couples, by definition are NOT. They are living a life that is roughly 50% of what they desire and want and is their complete self. They are also living, roughly, 50% of the life of their partner, husband or roommate.

So by definition, there is a part of their BEingness that is incomplete and feels unfulfilled. This feeling, whether conscious or unconscious, leads to resentment of the life they are living. This can manifest itself later as depression, loneliness, or unhappiness in the relationship.

This is the underlying cause for divorce. Which we see is at a staggering high rate. I never comprehended why people would even get married in the first place, the odds of the marriage failing is actually against you. I guess people do it for the same reason the gamble or go to a casino; they are simply not conscious(aware) of the actually numbers. I will leave it to the reader to do their own research on the numbers as they apply to divorce.

And so for whatever reason, a person chooses to become a couple and spend their life living half the life of the being that they are inside. This leads to being unfulfilled inside unconsciously, which eventually will work its way into your conscious awareness by various methods. There may be resistance and ideas of filling the hole inside of us which will only grow wider and wider. We may attempt to fill the hole temporally with ideas like Starbucks, sex, drugs, and alcohol, but these too will eventually fail.

Im also seeing that after the marriages or relationships end, people will assign the blame for the unhappiness to their partner, themselves etc. and not see that it true underlying cause was the initial decision to live a life as half of themselves. And so many of them will rebound right back into another half-lationship. And so the circle begins anew.

I share this stream of knowing that came through me today in the hope that someone will read this and realize (real eyes) that the old idea of people living together as one, really has to be looked at more closely. I have longed held the belief that no one should consider getting into a relationship with another until after they have lived alone by themselves for a decade or so and figured out exactly who they are and what they want out of life. Because once a person has done this, has found themselves, only then are they considered to be a whole person. Until then we are half a person.

Bashar has said, and I paraphrase:

“…many of you have found your better halves and started living together, only to find that together, you are only 2 half-wits..”

Bashar was jesting of course, as he does.

We end on this final quote from our Divine Mother who is is here embodied with us now.

When we remove the LI from OBLIVIOUS, the truth becomes OBVIOUS.

hen we remove the LI from OBLIVIOUS, the truth becomes OBVIOUS.

All truths are true, all choices are respected here. Wisdom is when our choices bring us joy.

Bless Sings

Can someone be happy, even when they have a disease?

Happiness: I choose to be happy

Happiness: I choose to be happy

Yes. Happiness is a choice that anyone can make at any given moment.

What is happiness after all? A feeling, a state of being right?

“Circumstances do not matter, only state of being matters. ~Bashar”

 

PROOF

I have done this PROOF exercise with clients in the past and it is very effective in showing them that we can control our happiness. Here is how it works:

When you are in a bad mood, or not happy, or even just neutral, ascertain how happy you are in the now moment, from a 1 to 10. I have had clients say to me that they feel like they are at 5.

Great.

Then I ask them to envision a moment from their life where they were ABSOLUTELY happy, maybe the happiest moment of their life where they were physically laughing and having a great time. Maybe at a wedding, a birthday party. Out with friends on the town, It could be anything. Once they find this moment I ask them to go to that moment; BE in the scene. FEEL what you were feeling as you were actually there and then. Feel the laughter and the joy of the moment in your imagination, as our imagination is designed to make our mind believe that it is actually experiencing something, this is because we actually are.  At this point I will often see the client smiling, very broadly, as they relive this memory experience. They are beaming and glowing with joy. And I ask, “are you there? Are you feeling the joy;” and they say “yes.” I ask them “how does it feel and they say “wonderful.” I ask “tell me, in general, what is going on. And they do.

I then ask them to open their eyes and tell me how happy they feel from a 1 to 10, and they will say 7 or higher. There is ALWAYS and increase in happiness.

I then discuss with them, that they went from a 5 to a 7, or higher, in a matter of 2 minutes. That’s an increase in 1 digit per minute. Imagine if we chose to be happy for a 30 minutes meditation like this twice a day. Imagine how that could change our life, our health?

I then ask, what was in control of this increase in happiness? And they come to the conclusion that it was just them changing their thoughts and their point of view, in the now moment. That THEY CAN control their happiness. 100% proof positive. And so they understand that happiness is not a THING that occurs OUTSIDE of us, that we have to seek. We don’t have to shop to be happy. We don’t need another person in our lives to make us happy; something that many people believe. “I can not be happy unless I have a partner who makes me happy. We can just choose to be happy.

We have the ability to do so by simply choosing it. BEing it. That is why we are called human BEings. All we can do is respond to what has ALREADY happened. By BEing a vibratory state or FEELING. We can only respond to what is HAPPENING. which is actually where the word happy comes from. Happy comes from the word happening because it is our natural state of being, in any given moment. We had just forgotten this.

And so now we see that any idea that we can NOT control our own happiness …is false. This falsehood came from people getting confused and believing that we were meant to control what is HAPPENING or HAPPENED. No, we were never meant to focus on controlling those. We can only control how we feel about what has already happened. And we can always choose to simply remain happy, and not leave this natural state of being.

 

In the words of Bashar:

“The human mind is not designed to make anything happen. It is only capable of perceiving what has already happenED. The higher self consieves, the physical brain receives, and the human mind perceives.”

Blessings.